While caring for my mom who has dementia for over 15 years I have put on some pounds. I rarely exercise,I don’t eat right and although I know better sometimes I am just too tired to put forth the effort to take care of myself. All that changed
this last November 2012 when my doctor was blunt with me about how my care giving was bringing my health down.
My mother’s primary geriatric doctor told me that my mom was in perfect health except for her dementia. She said “I shouldn’t say this to you because I am not YOUR doctor I am your mom’s doctor, but over the years you went from being petite size ten to whatever you weigh now,you look exhausted and you need to take care of yourself as well as you take care of your Mom.”
At first I was angry. I thought easy for you to say you are married with only one kid and you don’t rely on others to give you a much needed break. She suggested i see my own doctor and get a check up. She told me that I had managed to bring my moms cholesterol,high blood pressure and weight within normal range and I needed to do the same for myself. She was right,
I went to see my doctor. Good thing I did. I was in danger of going blind in my left eye from some fatty deposits, my BMI was way out of range,I have sleep apnea,and I was border line diabetic.Not what I wanted to hear, but it was a wake up call.
This January 2013I started eating oatmeal just like I give my mom. On Saturdays I still make my naughty breakfast of bacon,eggs, and pancakes. I managed to lose 7 pounds so far and I feel better already. Idrink soy milk instead of regular milk and I actually like it better. I started walking my dogs more (well they walk me really, one of them is HUGE! ) I have a chihuahua and a pit bull terrier so walking them together stops traffic and I get lots of questions.
My mom told me I look better and she said Ii look more like her now..lol even though sometimes she still calls me my other sister Jennifer but that’s OK.. I also got new glasses except that back fired because I think when I started wearing wear them my neighbors started asking for more advice.
So please take care of yourself even if it’s little things and it will help you and your caree live healthier and less stressful lives. I better go I am also a graphic designer and i am past due on a project. Next time I will talk to caregivers about managing a home businesses while your patient is sleeping.Yes Virginia it is possible as long as you have alarms on the doors. Until next time……