Outlaws dementia and chickens. Some family stories are lost in translation.

If your family and friends are like mine whenever there’s a family event wedding, funeral, birth day BBQ someone will start reminiscing about things that happened. If they are tipsy or have Dementia things that MAY not  have happened are now fact .These untruths are reborn and are told with more passion and descriptive imagery than… Read More Outlaws dementia and chickens. Some family stories are lost in translation.

What is this Empty Nest I hear about ? Advice to parents don’t make your house too comfy. Start now people before it’s too late.

It’s Saturday night here in Silicon Valley. I’ve been married 23 years so Saturday night isn’t a big deal. Apparently it isn’t a big deal to my young adult kids that still live here either. Um they’re both home one has his girlfriend here so I have an extra one. Oh and my 85 year old… Read More What is this Empty Nest I hear about ? Advice to parents don’t make your house too comfy. Start now people before it’s too late.

Caregiver Canine Couture What’s in my caregiver closet and why should you care?

I am the youngest of two sisters. My oldest sister is 16 years older than I am. She is very stylish  a world traveler and all around conversationalist. She is “The most interesting woman in the world”  My other sister? Well she’s 13 years older than I am very eclectic and I’ll leave it at that.Then… Read More Caregiver Canine Couture What’s in my caregiver closet and why should you care?

Am I becoming a Vulcan ? Caring for elderly parents with Spock

As a caregiver to a mom with vascular dementia I have come to the realization that, over the years, I have become sort of numb and unexcitable during an emergency. I wonder if that’s a bad thing. It seemed to work for Spock. I hadn’t thought about it really until mom’s last ER visit. The… Read More Am I becoming a Vulcan ? Caring for elderly parents with Spock

Who Stands By You When it Hits The Fan? Literally . Caring for Family with Dementia.

Here in Northern California it has been really hot. Unfortunately some days my mom, Grace, closes her vents if the air is on. She is always cold and wears layers of clothes that we have to peel off her at least four times a day. I try to explain to her that she will have… Read More Who Stands By You When it Hits The Fan? Literally . Caring for Family with Dementia.